We can’t all be beaming all the time. We can’t all be freespirited, take-things-as-they-come, spontaneous adventurers 100 per cent of the time. And, you know what, that’s completely OK.
I openly admit that there are times while traveling that I just feel restless. Like I’m wasting my time. Like maybe I’d be happier if I cut things short and just went home. Those times make you feel like a fraud. I left stability so that I could follow my dream of being a nomad. Now, what does it say about me if I’m still not feeling fulfilled all the time?
In reality, not that much. The truth is that, no matter how adamant you are about being happy and spending your time living your ideal life, not every moment is always perfect. And that’s not a bad thing. In fact, it can be a good thing.
If you are always happy, you have no need to push yourself harder. You have no need to rethink how you are spending your time because you are satisfied with it. If you are happy with your work, you don’t feel compelled to do it more effectively. If you are happy with your life, you don’t feel that need to strive for more.
I’m not talking about always being unhappy in your life and work. Of course, if you were always disappointed with everything, your whole existence would be miserable. The point is that being happy for the sake of being happy can be a chore, and being unhappy can lead to life-changing decisions and huge boosts in drive and creativity.
So, if you find yourself unhappy with how you are spending your time on the road, don’t see it as a character flaw or a sign that you will never be happy. Instead, embrace it and know that it can push you forward. Unhappiness can lead to your most creative work, your best decisions, your motivation to push for something more. Take pride in your unhappiness, because it’s given you a perspective that perpetually happy people don’t have. It’s given you insight into yourself, knowing that you can do more or do better, and that you aren’t simply satisfied at your current level.
Besides, being happy all the time would be boring, and who wants to be boring?